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TODAY'S DARE

COUPLES CLASS HAND OUT FOR CLASS

FOR TODAY'S DARE, GET TWO SHEETS OF PAPER. ON

THE FIRST ONE, SPEND A FEW MINUTES WRITING OUT

POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. THEN DO THE

SAME WITH NEGATIVE THINGS ON THE SECOND SHEET.

PLACE BOTH SHEETS IN A SECRET PLACE FOR ANOTHER

DAY. THERE IS A DIFFERENT PURPOSE AND PLAN FOR

EACH. AT SOME POINT DURING THE REMAINDER OF THE

DAY, PICK A POSITIVE ATTRIBUTE FROM THE FIRST LIST

AND THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR HAVING THIS

CHARACTERISTIC.

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1.

WHICH LIST WAS EASIER TO MAKE ?

2.

WHAT DID THIS REVEAL ABOUT YOUR THOUGHTS ?

3.

WHAT ATTRIBUTE DID YOU THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR

HAVING ?

TODAY'S DARE.

DETERMINE TO BECOME YOUR SPOUSE'S BIGGEST FAN

AND TO REJECT ANY THOUGHTS OF JEALOUSY. TO HELP

YOU SET YOUR HEART ON YOUR SPOUSE AND FOCUS ON

THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS, TAKE YESTERDAY'S LIST OF

NEGATIVE ATTRIBUTES AND DISCREETLY.BURN IT. THEN

SHARE WITH YOUR SPOUSE HOW GLAD YOU ARE ABOUT

A SUCCESS HE OR SHE RECENTLY ENJOYED.

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1.

HOW HARD WAS IT TO DESTROY THE LIST ?

2.

WHAT ARE SOME POSITIVE EXPERIENCES THAT YOU CAN

CELEBRATE IN THE LIFE IF YOUR MATE ?

HOW CAN YOU ENCOURAGE THEM TOWARD FUTURE

SUCCESSES ?

LOVE MAKE GOOD IMPRESSIONS

SCRIPTURES: 1 PETER 5:14 AND LUKE 15:20

YOU'VE COVER SOME SERIOUS GROUND SO FAR IN THIS

JOURNEY. LEARNING TO DEMONSTRATE ASPECTS OF

LOVE LIKE PATIENCE, KINDNESS, AND ENCOURAGEMENT

ARE NOT ALWAYS EASY BUT ARE CERTAINLY CRUCIAL TO

A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. SO DEALING WITH THE WAY

YOU GREET YOUR SPOUSE EACH DAY MAY SEEM

INCONSEQUENTIAL, BUT THIS SMALL ISSUE CARRIES

SURPRISING SIGNIFICANCE. YOU CAN TELL A LOT ABOUT

THE STATE OF A COUPLE'S RELATIONSHIP FROM THE

WAY THEY GREET ONE ANOTHER. YOU CAN SEE IT IN

THEIR EXPRESSION AND COUNTENANCE, AS WELL AS

HOW THEY SPEAK TO EACH OTHER. IT IS EVEN MORE

OBVIOUS BY THEIR PHYSICAL CONTACT. BUT HOW

MUCH IMPORTANCE SHOULD YOU GIVE A GREETING??

THE BIBLE HAS MORE TO SAY ABOUT GREETING THAN

YOU MIGHT EXPECT. THE APOSTLE PAUL TOOK TIME TO

ENCOURAGE HIS READERS TO GREET ONE ANOTHER

WARMLY WHEN THEY MET. IN FACT, NEAR THE END OF

HIS LETTER TO THE ROMANS, HE ASKED FELLOW

BELIEVERS TO GREET TWENTY-SEVEN OF HIS FRIENDS

AND LOVED ONES FOR HIM. HE EVEN TOOK TIME TO

LIST EACH ONE BY NAME. IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT YOUR

FRIENDS, HOWEVER. JESUS NOTED IN HIS SERMON ON

THE MOUNT THAT EVEN PAGANS SPEAK KINDLY TO

PEOPLE THEY LIKE. THAT'S EASY FOR ANYONE TO DO.

BUT HE TOOK IT A STEP FURTHER AND SAID THAT BEING

GODLY INCLUDED BEING HUMBLE AND GRACIOUS

ENOUGH TO ADDRESS EVEN YOUR ENEMIES WITH

KINDNESS. THIS RAISES AN INTERESTING QUESTION??

HOW DO YOU GREET YOUR FRIENDS, CO-WORKERS, AND

HOW DO YOU GREET YOUR FRIENDS, CO-WORKERS, AND

NEIGHBORS?? HOW ABOUT ACQUAINTANCES AND

THOSE YOU MEET IN PUBLIC??. YOU MAY EVEN

ENCOUNTER SOMEONE YOU DON'T NECESSARILY LIKE

YET STILL ACKNOWLEDGE THEM OUT OF COURTESY. SO

IF YOU'RE THIS NICE AND POLITE TO OTHER PEOPLE,

DOESN'T YOUR SPOUSE DESERVE THE SAME?? TIMES

TEN?? IT'S PROBABLY SOMETHING YOU DON'T THINK

ABOUT VERY OFTEN-THE FIRST THING YOU SAY TO HIM

OR HER WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING . THE

LOOK ON YOUR FACE WHEN YOU GET IN THE CAR, THE

ENERGY IN YOUR VOICE WHEN YOU SPEAK ON THE

TELEPHONE. BUT HERE'S SOMETHING ELSE YOU

PROBABLY DON'T STOP TO CONSIDER THE DIFFERENCE IT

WOULD MAKE IN YOUR SPOUSE'S DAY IF EVERYTHING

ABOUT YOU EXPRESSED THE FACT THAT YOU WERE

REALLY, GLAD TO SEE THEM. WHEN SOMEONE

COMMUNICATES THAT THEY ARE GLAD TO SEE YOU,

YOUR PERSONAL SENSE OF SELF-WORTH INCREASES.

YOU FEEL MORE IMPORTANT AND VALUED. THAT'S

BECAUSE A GOOD GREETING SETS THE STAGE FOR

POSITIVE AND HEALTHY INTERACTION. LIKE LOVE, IT

PUTS WIND IN YOUR SAILS.

THINK BACK TO THE STORY JESUS TOLD OF THE

PRODIGAL SON. THIS YOUNG, REBELLIOUS MAN

DEMANDED HIS INHERITANCE MONEY AND THEN

WASTED IT ON A FOOLISH LIFESTYLE. BUT SOON HIS BAD

CHOICES CAUGHT UP WITH HIM, AND HE FOUND

HIMSELF EATING SCRAPS IN A PIGPEN. HUMBLED AND

ASHAMED, HE PRACTICED HIS APOLOGIES AND TRIED TO

THINK OF THE BEST WAY TO GO HOME AND FACE HIS

FATHER. BUT THE GREETING HE WAS EXPECTING WAS

NOT THE ONE HE RECEIVED. "WHILE HE WAS STILL A

LONG WAY OFF, HIS FATHER SAW HIM AND FELT

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LONG WAY OFF, HIS FATHER SAW HIM AND FELT

COMPASSION FOR HIM, AND RAN AND EMBRACED HIM

AND KISSED HIM" ( LUKE 15:20). OF ALL THE SCENARIOS

THIS YOUNG MAN HAD PLAYED OUT IN HIS MIND, THIS

WAS LIKELY THE LAST ONE HE EXPECTED. BUT HOW DO

YOU THINK IT MADE HIM FEEL TO RECEIVE HIS FATHER'S

EMBRACE AND HEAR HIS THANKFUL TONE?? HE NO

DOUBT FELT LOVED AND TREASURED ONCE AGAIN.

WHAT DO YOU THINK IT DID IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP??

WHAT KIND OF GREETING WOULD MAKE YOUR MATE

FEEL LIKE THAT?? HOW COULD YOU EXCITE HIS OR HER

VARIOUS SENSES WITH A SIMPLE WORD, A TOUCH, A

TONE OF VOICE? A LOVING GREETING CAN BLESS YOUR

SPOUSE THROUGH WHAT THEY SEE, HEAR, AND FEEL.

THINK OF THE OPPORTUNITIES YOU HAVE GREET EACH

OTHER ON A REGULAR BASIS. WHEN COMING THROUGH

THE DOOR. WHEN MEETING FOR LUNCH. WHEN

SAVING GOOD NIGHT. WHEN TALKING ON THE PHONE.

IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE BOLD AND DRAMATIC EVERY

TIME. BUT ADDING WARMTH AND ENTHUSIASM GIVES

YOU THE CHANCE TO TOUCH YOUR MATE'S HEART IN

SUBTLE, UNSPOKEN WAYS.(1) THINK ABOUT YOUR

GREETING?(2) DO YOU USE IT WELL?(3) DOES YOUR

SPOUSE FEEL VALUED AND APPRECIATED? DO THEY FEEL

LOVED? EVEN WHEN YOU'RE NOT GETTING ALONG TOO

WELL, YOU CAN LESSEN THE TENSION AND GIVE THEM

VALUE BY THE WAY YU GREET THEM. REMEMBER, LOVE

IS A CHOICE. SO CHOOSE TO CHANGE YOUR GREETING.

CHOOSE TO LOVE..


 

 


Brother Andre or Sister Delria Dennis, Directors of Married Couples Ministr
Email:delriadennis@comcast.net
Fax:312-225-0510
Website:mtcarmelmbchurch.com
Address:2976-78 South Wabash Avenue
 Chicago, IL 60616
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